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A beautiful mama left this comment saying her peace came when her kids went to school for 8 hours a day, or by booking a hotel weekend. And she is so right—a regulated mother is everything! But for our family, we unschool. My two Black boys are home with me, learning from the world, 24/7. I don’t get that 8-hour school break to reset. I truly believe that my patience with my sons is a political act. Me keeping my peace is the key to their freedom. But to give them that, I need to be free, too. And lately? I am just a deeply overstimulated mom actively asking for help. So I am calling on the village. Mamas who have their babies at home all day—how are you finding your balance? How do you regulate your nervous system in the middle of the morning chaos? Please drop your advice in the comments because I am taking notes. 📝🤎 📺 Tap the linked video on the screen to watch my full, vulnerable reality check. Overstimulated mom needs advise https://youtu.be/h1dusXKOAvQ #overstimulatedmom #motherhood #raisingblackboys #unschooling #softlife #nervoussystemregulation #momsupport #freespiritmama

Overstimulated Mom Needs Help: How to Find Patience & Raise Free Black Boys I’m a free spirit who loves her two young Black boys, but the 24/7 noise, chaos, and constant interruptions have me on the brink of burnout. I'm confessing the hard truth: my lack of patience is shrinking my sons' freedom. In this video, I get raw and real about motherhood overstimulation and the emotional labor of raising my toddler and pre-toddler. I talk about the guilt of snapping, why I've had to reframe patience not just as a soft skill but as a political act and a necessary tool for liberation. We're going beyond "just breathe" and diving into the practices I'm using right now—like sensory aids, narrating my struggle, and capacity-building—so I can regulate myself instead of restricting them. If you’re a mom dealing with sensory overload and feeling like you're failing the mission of raising joyous, free Black boys, this one is for you. Watch to learn: The direct link between a mom's overstimulation and a child's lack of freedom. How to use an internal script (Are they unsafe? Or am I just annoyed?) to choose your response. My current experiment with sensory aids and narrating the struggle to teach my boys that their mother is human too. Their freedom depends on my regulation. Let's do the work together. 00:00 Intro 00:39 My experience with overstimulation 01:05 How are black moms taking care of ourselves? 01:35 Why does patience as a mother matter? 04:30 Expand our capacity to have more patience 05:00 How do I self regulate? 06:00 Let's come together to figure this out #overstimulatedmom #motherhoodpatience #raisingblackboys #emotionalregulation #gentleparenting #momlife #sensoryoverload #blackmommagic #toddlerlife #preschoolmom #freespiritmom #parentingstruggles #patienceiscapacity

A slow morning routine raising 2 Black boys (No rushing, no yelling) Welcome to a realistic, slow morning routine raising 2 Black boys. If you are exhausted by the morning hustle and tired of starting your day in survival mode, you are in the right place. ✨ The internet is full of perfectly aesthetic, silent morning routines, but that is not real life with a high-energy toddler and a baby. In today’s vlog, I am showing what the "soft life" actually looks like in our home. Bamba is full of wild, beautiful energy, and my daily practice is to stay regulated so he can be free. Making breakfast gets messy, and things don't go perfectly, but I am actively choosing peace over the rush. We are unlearning "performance parenting" and building a Third Culture where our internal calm dictates the pace, not the clock. 🌞 Welcome to the living room of the Free Spirit Mamas community. Take your shoes off; you are safe to just be here. If you are unlearning the traditional path and choosing radical ease, make sure to hit SUBSCRIBE so we can build this village together! 👇🏾 Let’s chat in the comments: What is one small way you are choosing peace over rushing today? Chapters: 00:14 Quitting the "aesthetic" morning routine 00:50 Making breakfast (The messy, beautiful reality) 02:00 What's on the agenda for today 03:36 Clean the kitchen and cook red lentils with me 09:20 Good hygiene for toddlers and babies 12:30 Girl talk while I do my hair 16:31 High energy boys & staying regulated 20:48 Things we need before we leave the house 27:45 Walking to the car with a toddler and baby 33:00 We made it to our destination (Bonus Clip) #slowmorningroutine #raisingblackboys #softlife #freespiritmama #peacefulparenting #boymom #unschooling #motherhoodvlog #slowliving

CHOOSING EASE AS A BLACK MOTHER: 7 THINGS I REFUSE TO DO I used to think that being a good Black mother meant living with a nervous system that was constantly vibrating, feeling "freaking rushed," and having my worth measured by my exhaustion. As a Black woman, society handed me a script that said my value is in how much I can carry and endure. But I officially resigned from the Struggle Olympics. I realized I cannot raise free, joyful boys if I am a captive, burnt-out mother. In this powerful video, I am sharing the 7 non-negotiable things I absolutely refuse to do anymore to protect my peace and reclaim my nervous system's baseline of "Peace," not "Survival." Choosing ease doesn't mean I am lazy; it means I am intentional. It is a boundary I set against the culture of urgency. WATCH NOW to Learn the 7 Refusals: 0:00 The Confession: Why I Had to Resign from the Struggle Olympics 1:10 The Philosophy: Why Ease is a Non-Negotiable Boundary 2:01 Refusal #1: Ditching the "Perfection" 2:45 Refusal #2: Trading Rigid Routine for Flow & Rhythm 3:35 Refusal #3: Ditching the over scheduling hustle 4:50 Refusal #4: Prioritizing our weekend sanctuary 5:50 Refusal #5: Saving time 6:49 Refusal #6: Acknowledge overstimulation 7:26 Refusal #7: Let them be wild and free 8:10 Main character energy 8:05 The Result of Choosing Ease If you are tired of performing the "Strong Black Mom" hustle, this is your permission to put the heavy bags down. You don't have to do it all to be a good mother; you just have to be present. ✨ Get Your Peace Back: What is ONE thing you are refusing to do this week to get your peace back? Let's unlearn the hustle together in the comments below! #BlackMotherhood #ChoosingEase #PeacefulParenting #BlackMomHustle #StrongBlackMom #MomLife #ParentingTips #BurnoutRecovery #GentleParenting #BlackWomenInParenting #BlackMomMagic #SelfCareForMoms #ResigningFromTheStruggleOlympics #IntentionalLiving #BlackFamilyLife

This is an unmedicated birth story about choosing complete agency in childbirth and trust for my children—from pregnancy to toddlerhood. I refused a traditional hospital birth for both of my children, opting instead for a Black-owned birth center. Why I did this is a direct response to the Black Maternal Health Crisis. For Black women, the hospital isn't always the "safe" place. This decision was a powerful act of resistance and the first step in our Liberation Parenting mission. In this video, I share: Why Black women refuse hospital birth, and the fear and resistance I faced from my husband, Moussa, and family, and how I stood firm in my decision. How my Black birth story redefined safety for our family and ensured my sons entered the world in a calm, deliberate environment, with the protection of a Black-owned care team, Kindred Space LA #KSLA How this experience became the foundation for how we are raising Black sons—with total autonomy, mental freedom, and spiritual strength as part of our journey into Black holistic parenting. This is our blueprint for conscious parenting and raising boys who are free. Watch Next: The REAL reason I chose to stay at home https://youtu.be/1kbuFsYRor4?si=15Fu2OLNFDyrKi-M Finding out I am pregnant Finding Out I'm Pregnant #pregnancyjourney https://youtu.be/uFOK5J9Djm0?si=9H0LEUqxsA4JKB7j H&M Try On Haul | Maternity and Nursing Summer 2023 https://youtu.be/YjZ0tQprRYI?si=XTgoO5FrHi_sEuyS Labor positions that made a huge difference https://youtu.be/TdhfOL3SuYI?si=CaM_Gojb3Y3wQoWX 00:00 Intro laboring in the tub 01:40 Meeting my doula for the first time 04:24: Birthing playlist 05: 45 the beginning of labor 08: 17 laboring at the birth center kindred space la 12:45 delivering baby 14:22 newborn screen at the birth center 17:45 cutting the umbilical cord 22:57 why i refused to give birth at the hospital #BlackMaternalHealthCrisis #BlackBirthStory #BlackOwnedBirthCenter #LiberationParenting #blackmom #RaisingBlackBoys #ConsciousParenting #AgencyInChildbirth #UnmedicatedBirth #kindredspacela #unmedicatedbirth #naturalbirth

Why I Stopped Rushing My Black Sons (The Slow Living Shift) For a long time, I treated my motherhood like a boot camp—rushing my two Black boys out the door, obsessing over schedules, and running our home like a CEO. I thought I was preparing them for the real world, but I was really just passing down my own anxiety. I was in survival mode, and it was wrecking my nervous system. In this video, I share my radical choice to embrace a slow living shift for moms. I moved from constant chaos to conscious parenting and a more peaceful parenting style, realizing that home needs to be the one place where my sons are allowed to just be. I dive into the 3 changes that finally helped me breathe again: The "Seatbelt" Patience: Modeling mindfulness and allowing my son's learning process to be more important than the clock. Integration over Separation: Integrating motherhood and professionalism by embracing the reality of a working Stay-at-Home Mom (SAHM) life. Syncing with Nature's Pace: Using nature to force a slowdown, giving my boys hours of unstructured freedom and boosting everyone's mood. Protecting your nervous system as a mom is actually the most powerful thing you can do for your children. This video is for every Black Motherhood and SAHM Mom who is ready to stop rushing and start raising free children. 00:00 Intro 02:00 what is slow living 02: 37 How we adapted to slow living 07:00 My identity as a mom and entrepreneur 10:58 Slowing down to observe our world 15:14 outro #SlowLiving #BlackMotherhood #ParentingBlackBoys #StayAtHomeMom #SAHM #IntentionalParenting #AnxietyReliefForMoms #ConsciousParenting #MomLife #NervousSystemRegulation

When I became pregnant with Ahmed my second born. It felt like I completely shut down and I couldn’t understand why. I thought it was from burnout. I remember saying “I can’t even think right now.” There was no more creativity which meant no ideas, no writing, no blogging, no newsletters, no recording, no editing. Nothing. The metal fog I was experiencing was my bodies response to pregnancy. I had already had some months of experience with Bamba but becoming a second time mom was a promotion that required my brain to go through the next level of training. It wasn’t until now that I realize something very special was happening to my body and because I didn’t know what was going on I became depressed instead of understanding. So in today’s video we are going to talk about mom brain and how it showed up in my pregnancy and motherhood journey. My hope is that you can use this information to your advantage and feel empowered and not depressed like me. As we discover what was happening I am going to compare this process of mom brain to running a company. When I was pregnant with Bamba my first born I received on the job training and a lite introduction into motherhood. With Ahmed, I got promoted to Senior Manager. So my body literally needed to shut down the entire creative department and send all of my resources to the motherhood department. Mom brain is a promotion NOT a layoff. Lets talk about some common mom brain myths Myths about mom brain Intellectual decline mom brain does not make you dumb it sharpens your intuition Mom brain is not just forgetfulness. My brain actually changed by opening new pathways to process information. Creating systems and processes for the motherhood department. Moms are the only ones that experience mom brain. Dads can experience this as well because they are also learning how to be caregivers. Becoming a mother literally rewired my brain. The term mom brain actually means that you are learning and that your brain is creating new pathways to be a caregiver, detect threats and bond with your baby and become a better multitasker. Everyone knows that moms are good at multitasking and we can thank mom brain for that Here is what happened in this shift from creativity to mom brain. My hormones increased and my brain restructured My internal resources where being depleted, I was breastfeeding Bamba, my body was create new life, I had an inconsistent sleep schedule, and a new meal planning routine. All of which caused stress and overwhelm. While I questioned who am I and feeling stuck my body was doing overtime to prepare me for who I was becoming. A mother of 2. Getting into the zone or creative flow was difficult due to the cognitive load involved with learning how to be a mother of 2 and the overwhelming stimulation of taking care of a 10 month old. —------ The solution Reopening the creative department in my brain was a gradual process it took a little over a year. How did I restore my creativity after experiencing mom brain? I reorganized spaces within our home I started to reengage in body movement from head to toe. Moving around stuck energy within my body. I started back journaling and brain dumping to help declutter my brain I play with the boys and allow myself to connect with my inner child. —--------- While mom brain significantly impacted my journey as a content creator and entrepreneur it was necessary. If you're in the fog right now, you aren't failing. You're just in training. So the best thing for you to do is rest and stay hydrated. Thank you joining on this pursuit to freedom, flexibility, and creativity. I look forward to seeing you in the next video, until then, keep exploring. 00:00 Intro how mom brain effected my creativity 00:50 my pregnancy journey 01:30 how we should think about mom brain 01:35 common mom brain myths 03:40 shift from creative brain to mom brain 06:01 how did I restore my creativity 08:39 words of encouragement 09:13 outro #mombrain

How am I going to convince my family that Morocco is a safe place for the boys to grow if Senegalese people are not being treated nicely because they won the African Cup. Who am I and how can I speak on this topic? Why I want to move back? For a global experience. How would this benefit my family? There are many benefits to children living abroad. How will I know if it is safe or not to return? 00:00 intro 00:49 My journey to Morocco the first time 04:26 Is Morocco safe? 05:15 The dispute between Moroccans and Senegalese people because of the African Cup 09:45 The real reason why I want to live abroad 11:30 Benefits of moving abroad Related Videos Learn Moroccan Arabic - https://youtu.be/dQRMozgO2_M?si=82f8HfWT5pmqYr87 How we met - https://youtu.be/aknYT7cReIw?si=fLsg0DaEAe079R9k My Peace Corps Experience - https://youtu.be/lVUL6MxXJKs?si=6HValo-oQvfMjnP7 #morocco #moroccofans